As we get close to holiday seasons, we learn about one of the most important understandings we'll ever have about our brain. In fact, for me, it's one of the top 10 brain-based insights of all time.
This understanding is fundamental to the amount of joy we have, our weight (that we're always trying to manage) and our satisfaction with life.
In short, this has changed how I understand my own brain and it just may do the same for you. We begin with a simple study about self-control.
This study pitted 19 chimpanzees against 40 humans in a groundbreaking experiment. What you're about to learn may change your life!
In the study, humans were offered snack food (peanuts, M&Ms, raisins, etc.) and the chimpanzees were offered a desirable fruit (grapes). Each competitor was offered two treats now or six treats later. The chimpanzees were willing to wait for a larger treat a whopping 72% of the time. Humans were only willing to defer gratification a paltry 19% of the time.
Are chimpanzees "smarter" than humans?
Well, I would argue that humans simply "outsmart themselves" much of the time (Rosati AG, et al., 2007). The humans explained that they could have "resisted" the snacks if they really wanted to.
Does this sound familiar?
This leads to unhappiness over spending and weight gains, plus a lot of guilt which often turns to depression. So what's going on in the brain?
The brain's way of regulating motivation is through the production and release of a common neuro-transmitter called dopamine. But dopamine is more the brain's way of steering and biasing you towards biologically rewarding behaviours than it is for actually having happiness. In short, dopamine is nature's way of guiding you to pleasure.
A thousand years ago, happiness came from security, affiliation, status, food and sex. But today, there are countless other ways to "trick" our brain into those time-tested states of future pleasure (Blum, et al., 2012).
We feel the pleasure in finding a bargain more than actually wearing the outfit. Pleasures include eating fatty snacks (right now vs. waiting), making online purchases, gambling, shopping, prescriptive (or illegal) drug usage, cheating (on taxes or your spouse), spending money (or the illusion of saving money), checking for interesting emails, and web-browsing (novelty is rewarding.)
So, what's the big problem with all of those dopamine-producing things we do?
The problem is that we use a number of strategies to rationalize the event by eating more, spending more, exercising less and the result is often guilt. Then we try to get past the guilt by trying to make ourselves feel better with more snacking, more online shopping and wild promises of how much exercise we'll do tomorrow. (It’s always pushed into the future, isn't it?)
The strategies we use (e.g. discounting the future, misleading ourselves, over-estimating our willpower) can all help us feel good in the short term ("Woo-hoo! I saved 33% on that purchase."), but feel badly in the long haul when guilt sets in.
Millions purchase weight loss products, workout equipment, supplements and diet books. The dopamine floods the brain with the promise of a skinny body, but when the product arrives at your house, you still have to choose between the new reality of actually using the product and something else more fun for the brain (like eating, checking emails or shopping online.) The ordering of the product is what produced the dopamine. This may be unfair, but our body will continue to seek immediate pleasure (Egecioglu, et al., 2011), unless you have powerful strategies in place.
You might be wondering what strategies can you put in place to better regulate that "pleasure-seeking dopamine" that seems to wreak havoc on your life. You're about to find out the secrets to a healthier, happier you, especially when the holidays come up.
What have we learned about our brain from the research above?
First, let's apply the lesson to the classroom, then to yourself. In the classroom, it's not the actual reward that makes kids feel motivated to do or get something. It's the promise and prediction of a good feeling that is a core driver of student behavior. That's why teachers who continually "hook" kids in with the promise of something fun (social, novel, exciting, status-building, challenging or otherwise beneficial) can keep kids motivated to work hard. This suggests that you practice those buy-in strategies. For example, "Hey kids! I just thought of something that's really weird. You want to try it out?"
But what about in your own life? How do you deal with the brain's continual tricking you into fake pleasures such as the promise of weight loss, the promise of the pleasure from a new kitchen appliance, or the promise of an abundant, joy boosting vegetable garden?
There are a number of strategies I can suggest and each one has to do with regulating your own brain.
Here they are in no particular order:
Interested in reading more on this topic?
I suggest What Makes Your Brain Happy by David DiSalvo and The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal.
Remember, the thought of buying these books might make you anticipate pleasure. But then, you'll have to: (1) buy and read them, and (2) implement what you read.
Do you have enough grit to follow through and do them both? If not, you better stick with meditation!